Breaking the Stigma Around Men’s Mental Health
- Jun 8
- 3 min read
For many men, talking about mental health can be difficult or even taboo. Here are some practical steps we can all take to dismantle the barriers men face, and create a supportive community for everyone.
Change the way we speak to boys
In many societies around the world, men and boys are expected to be brave, competitive, and tough in the face of adversity. If you teach children or you’re a parent or caregiver for a child, you can challenge gender stereotypes and show them that it’s OK to ask for help. Identify positive role models, and encourage them to name and express their emotions, rather than bottling them up
Watch out for warning signs
It’s important that we learn to look out for changes in people’s behavior, as these can
be signs that someone has mental health problems. These will vary from person to person, and depending on the illness they may be experiencing. Here are some common signs to look out for:
Changes in sleep patterns or appetite
Decline in personal care
Mood changes
Self-loathing
Withdrawal from activities
they previously enjoyed
Drop in performance at school or work
Problems with concentration,
decision-making or memory
Unusual or exaggerated beliefs
about oneself
Unusual or uncharacteristic behavior
Hypervigilance or suspiciousness
about other people
Significant weight loss/gain
Reckless behavior
Excessive alcohol or drug use
Check in with people
If you notice someone exhibiting any of these signs, reach out and ask if they would like to talk. If they’re reluctant, don’t force them - instead, let them know that they’re not alone, and that you’re there to support them whenever they are ready.
If they do want to talk, listen without interrupting. You may not know what to say, and that’s OK - you’re giving them the space to articulate how they’re feeling, and that may be the encouragement they need to start opening up about their mental health.
People experiencing mental health difficulties may struggle to keep in touch, so reach out to them regularly via text message or phone call. You may not always receive a reply, but hearing from you may help them to feel less isolated.
Offer practical help
When someone is having a hard time with their mental health, they may find it difficult to engage in everyday activities and self-care. They may not be able to put what they need into words, and won’t necessarily ask for your help. You could offer practical support, like running errands and helping them with household tasks.
Many people lose their appetite when they’reanxious or depressed, or don’t have the
motivation to cook. You could help by preparing a few meals for them. Suggest doing an activity together that you know they enjoy, like watching sport or going for a walk - even just sitting with them and watching a movie can be a comfort.
Encourage them to seek help
If you know that someone is struggling, you could gently encourage them to speak to their GP. You could also find out about helplines and local services such as talking therapy or support groups, and give them the details.
Ask them if they would like you to accompany them to any appointments, or meet you
afterwards. They may be reluctant to speak to a professional, or they may reject the idea
altogether. Reassure them that it’s OK to ask for help when they’re ready, and that support is always out there.
If you know someone who is struggling with their mental health, you can seek advice
through your EAP. An EAP counsellor can support you with how to have the conversation, and how to cope yourself.
